Posted by
Glenn Flowers on Monday, April 21, 2008 7:44:18 AM
The Character of Women and Men
A Brief Study of How We Differ
Intro
This is in no way a formal or scientific discourse. It is only the conclusions I have come to after fifty-two years of life surrounded by females. I had five sisters, no brothers. I was fourth in the series and grew up knowing as fact that women were the superior beings. There was no other philosophy considered in our home. Mom and my three older sisters ruled. Period. And what a life it was. Sisters have friends, girlfriends, and that comes in handy. Sisters tell you what girls like and dislike, and that comes in handy. Sisters are just exceedingly helpful, and very precious too. Sisters are way better than smelly, competitive brothers. Much better.
Life With Women
My dad was the most intelligent human I’ve ever encountered. A tool and die supervisor for Boeing Military Division, Dad worked in a realm of 10/1000ths of an inch, tenths he called them. If a machinist could not hold a tolerance of plus or minus three tenths (.0003) all day long he wasn’t much of a machinist and didn’t stay at Boeing very long. In collaberation with James Picor (DeHavilland turbojet designer) Dad designed and built the first turret mill in the world. It was the only machine that can replicate itself, by itself. He was also responsible for the design and build of every tool, die, and jig used in the construction and testing of the B-47’s and B-52’s. That’s why those aircraft, especially the Buff, have had the life they’ve had. My dad, personally responsible. Haha!
The smartest thing that he ever did though, in my opinion, was to willingly subject himself totally to female rule and all that that entailed in our family setting. He always said that if something was so important to Mom or the three girls that they argued with him about it, it was important enough to stand aside and let them have their way, peacefully. Oh, they would have had their way regardless, the only choice to be made by Dad was whether he would make it hard on himself or accept it as reality and be happy with it. Like I said, a very smart man.
Basic Mindsets
Like fire and water, men and women are opposites by nature. Their basic belief patterns are seemingly in opposition. Fire and water can destroy each other, or they can generate fantastic amounts of usable energy. Women and men are no different. Women were concieved with mental code that sees the world’s potential for beauty, health, and harmony. They have a utopian drive that would see the human race socializing and working in harmony to achieve Nirvana for all, and all the time not understanding why it is not already so.
Men, on the other side of the boiler, see the world as it really is, a complex and contrary system of physical laws, exceptions thereto, humans who are less than human, and obstacles to overcome, but all the time working within those constraints to achieve their goals.
Dwell for a moment on the differences between these two outlooks, and then imagine the possibilities it suggests. Men are the realists in a physical way, able to do things with materials and technology. Women are the dreamers of ideals seeing what could be and how it ought to be.
Men are also the softies of the species when it comes to women and love. They will do and say anything, fight, cheat, lie, and betray each other for the love of THE woman. That is nature working to insure the continuation of our species. But it was also meant to be the regulator of the fire/water steam engine.
Women inherently desire perfection and are the anchor in love. They express their desire for a better world to their man in ways that men don’t even realize that they are being given a goal to be achieved. To make his female happier and easier to live with, because you can’t live without them, the man goes about designing and constructing the better world she craves working by within the constraints of the physical world. What Lola wants Larry builds, and then gives to her. A perfect partnership of idealism in concept and realism in design and construction.
Behind every good man stands a what? Of course she does. She wouldn’t stand near a man who didn’t strive to provide her with the Heaven On Earth she has so carefully concieved in imagination. And he wouldn’t know how to spend his day if she wasn’t right there next to him telling him how it needs to be done. He couldn’t anymore ignore her dreams and just go his own way than she could build the world she dreams of without him. Instead, he takes on her dreams and desires as his own and builds both of them a better world and she rewards him in the way he loves best and as only she knows how.
With just a little bit of sensical analysis it does make perfect sense. When you were young and became ill who did you want caring for you? On your birthday who did you rely on for the perfect chocolate cake? When you snuggled into your clean sheets and pajamas at night who did you love for it? The female, that’s who. The nurturing, caring, loving perfectionism is instinctive behavior. It is only reasonable that the world according to women would be a better and happier place to be. There would be no conflict, and no reason for wepaons. All illness would be eradicated and hospitals would be free and doctors and teachers would be rich. All piano lessons would produce concert virtuosos and performances would be continuous in all neighborhood parks. Just take a look at the homes women provide their families. Clean, orderly, comfort to spare, and geared toward her man’s total satisfaction.
Growing up with a dad like mine was easy. He and I got out into the world together every chance we had. Fishing, camping, working on cars, and going to the kinfolk's. At home we watched Red Skelton and Gunsmoke on TV. Every Saturday morning we grabbed mandolin and fiddle and played along with Cal’s Corral artists doing bluegrass and old time, real country music. He taught me math in such a way that it is second nature. He taught me life’s complexities as practiced by bull and cow, stud and mare, and accordingly, how that applied to men and women. He said that the most desirable pleasures in Earthly life came as a result of men and women truly liking each other’s company and expressing that affection physically and with mutual enjoyment. The only comparable but not equal feeling in his mind was the pride and satisfaction that comes from supporting yourself and owning your own piece of the world. To be a compliant, giving, self-sacrificing lover of a good woman is man’s true destiny. We men are all quivering masses of jelly when females show interest. Be proud of it. They like us that way and we all like it when they like us. That is why I believe my dad did such a smart thing by accepting female superiority. He made our females a happy lot of women and they, in turn, made him a very happy and satisfied man. Smart. Really smart.
So, what the blazes does all this have to do with the way things are? Nothing really, but really, everything. Take it or leave it, whatever you wish. But, if you are a typical male of the species a woman and all she is figures relatively high in priority in your life. Isn’t the world beautiful when she is in a loving, generous mood? Oh yeah! OH YEAH! So doesn’t it seem worthwhile to do what you can to make her life enjoyable? Is life her way so bad you can’t live it? Actually, being slave, sex servant, and general mechanic for a good female is, uhhh, well...you know what I mean. So, give in. Make her always the winner. Tell her she’s right and you know it. It can only lead to goodness for you both.